My Kind of Gal

Say what you want about her acting skills. Say what you want about her choice of films to star in, but Jennifer Aniston is ok by me. Here’s a woman who has it all—beauty, brains, style, fame, money and killer hair.  And the one thing she doesn’t have—a man—doesn’t seem to bother her a bit. Not one iota.  She’s Jennifer Aniston, after all!  The girl next door. Everybody’s BFF. And she’s my hero.

Single and loving it!

Why?  Because while everyone is feeling sorry for her, still licking the wounds from her broken marriage, she’s thriving and doing well, thank you very much. Must be her self-esteem, or all the love she receives from her friends and family. And also from her fans (me included).  I know she’s happy because she told this to People magazine and I believe everything I read in People.  This is a woman with backbone. A woman not desperately seeking her soul mate. Or Mr. Right or Mr. Big or Mr. Whatever, for that matter.

So why is everybody keen on making sure she finds that special someone? Probably for the same reason, us non-famous folk get pestered:  because our society is built on the foundation of marriage (except when it comes to gay marriage)  and can’t imagine that unattached people could possibly be satisfied being single.  It’s as if we’re all waiting for Noah’s Ark to pull in, and we have to be two by two, and at the ready, for when that time comes.

Heaven knows Jen puts herself out there everyday. Her life is a stage and we’re all looking on, wondering if she’s ever going to find The One. Some of us look because it gives us hope, and some of us, because it makes us sad to see her alone. And then there’s the happily married’s who look on because they are uneasy seeing single people content being, well, single.

So if Jennifer Aniston can’t find a partner with whom to board the ark and sail into the sunset, should the rest of us singletons even try?  The answer is, it depends. I’ve given this a lot of thought and consider myself an expert on the state of singledom, having spent years and years perfecting the single lifestyle.  Here’s how I see it: Singles can be divided into two basic categories—1) those that need to pair up and 2) those that are happy living on their own, perpetually single.

And I, like Jen, fall into the latter. Which means we are so busy enjoying life with friends and family, maintaining our busy social calendars, and loving the work we do. All this keeps us blissfully fulfilled.  Besides, we’re so exhausted from our lifestyle that we don’t have the time to search out that special someone (and, at our age, we’d have to do a lot of searching and digging), let alone, the desire to get mixed up in a relationship.

If you fall into the former category, meaning you see being single as a temporary stage and you’re determined to get out of it by finding yourself a partner, then you will! It can take a lot of work, time and energy, but if you’re resolved and willing to go the extra mile, then count on it! Of course, know that as you get older, the pool of available partners comes with baggage, much like your own. So you’ll have to sort it out and hope that all those suitcases match or, at least, complement each other.

As for me, I was a married lady once and trust me, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. Which is why Jennifer Anniston is my kind of gal. She’s a role model for me and for those of us who embrace our singleton lives.  So thanks, Jen, for making our post-divorce and single lifestyle acceptable. I’m glad you’re happy. I’m happy too.